Right now, I am in the process of trying to make myself become a better person. I feel like living here and making this move was an amazing decision and was so good for me, but the same time, I am learning to deal. I have had such anger and hostility towards some of the people here and how different they are from the people back home. Waiting tables is probably the root of the problem. It has just been such a weird adjustment because I don't ever remember having such high and low moods. I have never been more sad, lonely or depressed and never so inspired, happy, and carefree at the same time. I think about my past a lot, and high school, and I think that these moods trigger those memories of when I was going through a really rough spot and it makes it even harder. Lately I have been playing around with the idea of going to Alanon meetings. I know that I need to talk to someone, professionally speaking, about my anger and depression. Being since I have no insurance, and cannot afford to go to a normal therapist, I think that maybe going to these meetings would help a lot. I want to get involved in something that is not only going to change someone else's life, but make me feel better as well.
For as long as I can remember, my dad has always dealt with an addiction. Whether it was alcohol, narcotics, or even over the counter cold medicine, it has affected my life deeply. Don't get me wrong, I adore my dad, and I have always been a "daddys girl" to the fullest. But a lot of his disease has made me question a lot of things about myself. I wonder all the time if I am at risk of becoming an alcoholic. I wonder how much of his Psychological disorders are genetic and if there is a component on why I am the way that I am. It doesnt take a Psychologist to figure out why I have anger issues and why I can't control my temper. That is how I was raised. I just want to be able to control it. I want to know that I can be my own person and do things the normal way without being in my parent's shadow. And most importantly, if I have kids one day, I don't want them to have to go through what I went through. My parents are good parents. Did they make mistakes, yes. Are they perfect, no. It has taken me a really long time to realize that my parents are human and they are their own person and if I want to be part of their lives, I am just going to have to provide empathy and understanding towards their actions. Will I ever become them? Not exactly. I get my big heart from my mom, and I am generous and attentive like my dad. I hope my kids inherit those qualities, but I will make sure they will never be surrounded by negativity, fights, drugs, alcohol, and abuse if I can control it. I will never have kids if I know they are at risk for that. So, in order for me to make sure that doesn't happen, I need to fix myself first.
Besides all of that, I am just ready to move out and start another semester at LAVC. I can't wait to get all my general education classes over so I can focus on transferring to CSUN or UCLA. I am ready to take on everything.........to be continued........ <3